Well, Since few days, I am getting this question every now
and then. "Mani, what are your expectations from your life partner?"
And all I can do is to stare at the questioner! I mean come on, I am just 22 and
I have many things to accomplish in my life before I get into this love
feeling. (Of course, hope so, it will be a love marriage!). It's not that I am
a saint and I never flirted with girls. I did and I do! But deciding your life
partner needs time. I mean much time. I have a poster of "suggestion for
Success" hanging on my wall and the very first point is "Marry the
right person. This one decision will determine 90% of your happiness or misery.
Anyway, not getting into that "I-will-give-you-lectures-about-how-a-life-partner-should-be"
mode, I will just jot down things that I expect from my life partner!
1. She should NOT be perfect. Well, yes, no one is perfect.
But still there are certain creatures in this world who are close to perfect. I
mean I have seen some girls who are gorgeous, talented, good in nature, passionate
and what not! But so far I have observed that perfection goes hand in hand with
the arrogance. I want someone who is down to earth. At least She should know
the fact that she is not the only one in the world.
2. The most important condition, She should take care of my
parents. I am the only son of my parents and considering
"I-want-my-own-space" mentality of our young generation, I think I
may need to search for a long time for a woman possessing this quality. I don't
expect her to bow down before my parents and take care of them as if it's her
duty. But at least she should give them the respect they deserve. And of
course, same is equally applicable to me when it comes to her parents.
3. She should be at least 5'1"-5'2".
4. Though I am of the mentality to prefer nature over the
looks, things need to be a bit practical. Of course, nature is the first thing
I will look at, but yes, she should at least be noticeable, if not good
looking.
After all, I will have to my life with her, and you know how
guys are :)
5. She should be educated! I think it is very important to
have that compatibility level with your fellow partner, otherwise practically,
things become difficult. I am okay if she earns or doesn't earn. It really
doesn't matter. Because deep inside I know I will earn enough amount so as not
to let my family deprived of any facilities! So even if she earns, it's her
choice whom to spend money on. I will not interfere with it!
6. I won't give a damn about her background or any bad thing
related to her family. After all, she didn’t born in that particular family by
her choice :) And it's the girl I want to marry, not her family.
7. I am not race-caste biased. My parents had love marriage.
Though my mother has some personal reasons and she wants me to marry me a girl
of our caste, I can persuade her! I am okay to marry a girl of different caste
or religion. It is least of my worries. And if she loves me, I have enough guts
to convince her parents about the same factor!
8. I don't mind if she drinks or smokes or is a non-veg
eating girl (My entire family excluding
me is vegetarian. I had to learn to eat non-veg to survive in hostel and now in
south India). But there should be a limit about drinking-smoking habits. I
think these things do not necessarily decide a person's character. It's okay to
do them in a moderate proportion.
9. She should be caring and romantic. At least honest in
relationship. I don't give a damn about her previous life. Whether she had a boyfriend
or not or anything for that matter. But once we are in a relationship, we
should be loyal to each other.
10. I am enough broad minded to accept the fact that if she
is working too, then she may not be able cook or may have to stay for long
hours in the company or she may have friends or colleagues just like I do.
These people might be in our lives before we will even meet each other. So cut
the crap! She will have her liberty and own-space about these things :)
11. I prefer someone who is from my field. Though the lowest
of all conditions. I think if partners are from the same educational background
then it helps them to understand each other’s concerns in more relative ways.
12. I am okay if she is elder to me by 2-3 years. It doesn't
matter. After all, we never know what will happen in next moment :) I want to
be with her and not with her age
Well, as of now, this is it! I believe these are very simple
and straightforward expectations, still I can compromise if situation demands
it. (Sometimes even a single factor about the person is sufficient to spend the
entire life with him/her!). It's been quite some time that I haven't posted
anything on this blog. GMAT is on my nerves. 46 days to go. More on this later.
m so proud of u :) dis is d best 1.ur articles reflect ur mentality.I cn bet anything on d deal dat d girl whom u marry wil b d luckiest one on d earth!!!!tc mate
ReplyDeletehey,this article shud be an example for d whole boys generation.if every boy has this mentality,then i think we girls don't need sympathy or quota in this male dominated country.
ReplyDeletefrom my side, :P
1.I am not perfect
2.I love uncle and aunty :D dey r so friendly n u know that I will take care of them
3.m 5'6"(is dat too much? :()
4.I look good n I nvr had fights wid u in last 2 years
5/12.I am an engineer
6.ok..u knw evrything about my family
7.This is interesting!by the pace you are going now,achieving these things will not be a matter for u.But u r still good without these things!
8.my parents love u so inter-caste wont be a problem for me either but let's c how u can convince vivek :P
9.I dont smoke and I drink only occasionally
10.I am romantic n caring :P Now do I need to boast about it?U knw how many boys proposed me till date ;)
11.hats off to this point.lets divide work
12.You din mention if u r okay to marry a girl elder to u :( wat about it?
P.S. I was passing my time so dont take any of the above seriously..LOL..
@diya-You think so?Thank you very much :)
ReplyDelete@Mahim-I was very happy until I read the last sentence :-x.Vivek always hates me,I don't know why.And I forgot to mention the age factor,will edit it now.I am okay with it.(anyhow I have always been the youngest in my any batch,so I guess no chance to meet someone younger to me at office or among my friends :( ) and 5'6'' is too good :) she just has to be less than 5'10'' :)
Do you really mean what you write?If yes,then I respect you more than any other boy on the earth.If a girl gets such a mutual understanding husband then she really will need no one to rely on.I really liked that parents are most important to you.Now we see couple abandoning their parents just because they need their privacy.what the hell.Mahim is right. post this article on some commercial,let the people know that there are still boys like you who care about their parents and in all who care about feelings of females.Thank you for the article mani.you rock
ReplyDelete@Shiksha-I mean every single word of what I write I write because I feel like writing and not to impress somebody. :) thank you so much for the comment.I really feel honored.When I started this blog,I wasn't even 1% sure that somebody will actually read it.But Now I see every single friend of mine take out some time for reading my balderdash!I feel I achieved something very special.
ReplyDeleteThanks to the people who provided their feedback by phone,mails,sms and on this blog.I got more than 60 responses for this post.Higher than any other post.And this is something I never dreamed of!!You guys made me feel special. :)
@rahul(chicku)-Oye manya,it is too good yaar.I am reading your other posts also.This is like a entire new different world of your.Name is perfect for it :the hidden part of life:I have forwarded this blog link to every friend I know.Famous ho raha hai tu ha.You have your own style of writing.Funny,simple and still touch the heart.carry on
ReplyDeleteAbe tu sach me aisa sochta hai kya ya fir ladkiyo ko impress kar raha hai...?
ReplyDelete@Rahul-Dhanyawad!Mala watla hota tu kadhi vachnar pan naahis :P kuthe aahes sadhya?kasa aahes?vahini kay mante?
ReplyDelete@Wasim-Impress karne ke aur bhi tarike hai bhaijaan :) this is wat I honestly feel about my life partner :)
ReplyDeleteA romanticised and sensationalised version of R. K. Laxman's "Common-Man" desires, I must admit. It would have been more beneficial had you posted this on matrimonials sites or dailies. Ha, ha!
ReplyDeleteJust one question before I flee Stranger. You clearly mentioned that you are not searching a perfectionist, but then your commandments, should I say, are contradicting. Aren't they?
I best hope that this is not one of those elaborate mid-day "RG vs. Mani" blasphemies.
See ya tomorrow boy.
@Anandu-No they aren't !!Definition of a perfectionist has far superior aspects..The qualities I expect are rather gullible :)
ReplyDeleteAnd I don't utter blasphemies against RG,we just have differences in opinion !!
I know who is she!!!wow..m genious!!naam bata du :P starts from alphabet "L" "D..right ?
ReplyDeletegood work....keep it up :)
ReplyDelete@shiksha--?? dumbo,at least see the post title before commenting.I think this is for the other post.Newaz,You still remain a dumbo.I don't see "L" in that sense!
ReplyDelete@Swati-Wow..:D Thanks!