Well, Since few days, I am getting this question every now
and then. "Mani, what are your expectations from your life partner?"
And all I can do is to stare at the questioner! I mean come on, I am just 22 and
I have many things to accomplish in my life before I get into this love
feeling. (Of course, hope so, it will be a love marriage!). It's not that I am
a saint and I never flirted with girls. I did and I do! But deciding your life
partner needs time. I mean much time. I have a poster of "suggestion for
Success" hanging on my wall and the very first point is "Marry the
right person. This one decision will determine 90% of your happiness or misery.
Anyway, not getting into that "I-will-give-you-lectures-about-how-a-life-partner-should-be"
mode, I will just jot down things that I expect from my life partner!
1. She should NOT be perfect. Well, yes, no one is perfect.
But still there are certain creatures in this world who are close to perfect. I
mean I have seen some girls who are gorgeous, talented, good in nature, passionate
and what not! But so far I have observed that perfection goes hand in hand with
the arrogance. I want someone who is down to earth. At least She should know
the fact that she is not the only one in the world.
2. The most important condition, She should take care of my
parents. I am the only son of my parents and considering
"I-want-my-own-space" mentality of our young generation, I think I
may need to search for a long time for a woman possessing this quality. I don't
expect her to bow down before my parents and take care of them as if it's her
duty. But at least she should give them the respect they deserve. And of
course, same is equally applicable to me when it comes to her parents.
3. She should be at least 5'1"-5'2".
4. Though I am of the mentality to prefer nature over the
looks, things need to be a bit practical. Of course, nature is the first thing
I will look at, but yes, she should at least be noticeable, if not good
looking.
After all, I will have to my life with her, and you know how
guys are :)
5. She should be educated! I think it is very important to
have that compatibility level with your fellow partner, otherwise practically,
things become difficult. I am okay if she earns or doesn't earn. It really
doesn't matter. Because deep inside I know I will earn enough amount so as not
to let my family deprived of any facilities! So even if she earns, it's her
choice whom to spend money on. I will not interfere with it!
6. I won't give a damn about her background or any bad thing
related to her family. After all, she didn’t born in that particular family by
her choice :) And it's the girl I want to marry, not her family.
7. I am not race-caste biased. My parents had love marriage.
Though my mother has some personal reasons and she wants me to marry me a girl
of our caste, I can persuade her! I am okay to marry a girl of different caste
or religion. It is least of my worries. And if she loves me, I have enough guts
to convince her parents about the same factor!
8. I don't mind if she drinks or smokes or is a non-veg
eating girl (My entire family excluding
me is vegetarian. I had to learn to eat non-veg to survive in hostel and now in
south India). But there should be a limit about drinking-smoking habits. I
think these things do not necessarily decide a person's character. It's okay to
do them in a moderate proportion.
9. She should be caring and romantic. At least honest in
relationship. I don't give a damn about her previous life. Whether she had a boyfriend
or not or anything for that matter. But once we are in a relationship, we
should be loyal to each other.
10. I am enough broad minded to accept the fact that if she
is working too, then she may not be able cook or may have to stay for long
hours in the company or she may have friends or colleagues just like I do.
These people might be in our lives before we will even meet each other. So cut
the crap! She will have her liberty and own-space about these things :)
11. I prefer someone who is from my field. Though the lowest
of all conditions. I think if partners are from the same educational background
then it helps them to understand each other’s concerns in more relative ways.
12. I am okay if she is elder to me by 2-3 years. It doesn't
matter. After all, we never know what will happen in next moment :) I want to
be with her and not with her age
Well, as of now, this is it! I believe these are very simple
and straightforward expectations, still I can compromise if situation demands
it. (Sometimes even a single factor about the person is sufficient to spend the
entire life with him/her!). It's been quite some time that I haven't posted
anything on this blog. GMAT is on my nerves. 46 days to go. More on this later.
